Life in an Assisted Living Community

Dear Jennifer,

We are getting ready to move my mother into an assisted living community, and she’s very apprehensive. She doesn’t like change anyway, and even though we toured the community, she’s not sure what life will be like once she moves in. Can you give us an idea?



What to Expect in Assisted Living

Dear Freda,

It’s very normal for older adults to be wary about changes in their life. The staff of most assisted living communities know this and are prepared to make new residents feel welcome.

First, let me reassure you that your mother will be able to bring her treasured furnishings, decorations, photos, and mementos to her new apartment.

Care Plan

Even before she moves in, your mother, you and any other interested family members will meet with staff to develop a care plan based on her doctor’s recommendations and your family’s wants and needs. If your mother needs to be reminded when to take her medications, a trained staff member will do so. Because MacIntosh communities also offer skilled nursing, unlike most assisted living communities, if your mother needs to be given medication, our nurses can provide that help.

Your mother’s care plan can be adjusted in real time. If she has problems with mobility during the winter, we can provide extra help. Again, because we also offer skilled nursing, we can provide additional services other assisted living communities cannot. For example, if your mother comes down with the flu and needs skilled nursing on a temporary basis, we can provide it.

You and your mother will be invited to attend classes and activities so both of you will become more familiar with the people and the physical layout of the community.

Welcome to Assisted Living

Once your mother moves in, she will be greeted by staff members, as well as residents who have volunteered to welcome new residents. They will answer her questions, and our staff or resident volunteers will also accompany your mother to meals so she doesn’t become confused in a strange place.

Maintenance staff are available to hang pictures and paintings and explain the emergency response system. Housekeeping will stop by to ask when your mother would like them to clean her room, change her beds, and take her laundry.

Our activities director will stop by within the first few days to invite her to attend fitness classes, crafts, and entertainment. Your mother may attend as many or as few activities as she’d like and may change her mind at any time. If she tends to forget when classes take place, she can request that someone stop by or phone her to remind her.

If, however, your mother is feeling overwhelmed, we can take it more slowly until she becomes acclimated. You can make decisions without the need for staff to stop by, although they all enjoy meeting new residents. At MacIntosh, we are responsive to the needs of your senior parent and the family.

Loneliness after Moving

Moving to a new home is a big change for anyone, and it’s only natural your mother may feel a little lonely or out of sorts her first few weeks. She may call you more frequently than usual. She may complain that the eggs aren’t cooked the same way she likes them.

It may take a few days until we learn her likes and dislikes—preferences such as how she prefers her eggs or whether she likes to wake up early. Be assured that all staff members will address your mother in the way she prefers, either as Mrs. Smith or Sarah.

Soon, your mother will be telling you about the nice lady down the hall who moved here from Quebec or how she won at bingo the other day. And in a surprisingly short time, you may become concerned when she isn’t home for your call, because she’s taken a trip to a nearby attraction or she’s playing cards with her neighbors and isn’t at home at her usual time.

Experts in Making Residents Feel at Home

We’re experts in making people feel at home. Before you know it, she will become part of our family, and our staff will care for her as such. Unlike a traditional business, our staff members truly care for and love residents.

The MacIntosh difference is that our goal is to provide personalized, uncompromised healthcare that exceeds expectations. Our entire business model is based on encouraging a loving, caring, and supportive environment for your parent and your entire family.

MacIntosh assisted living residences are located at Canal WinchesterMill RunNew AlbanyPickaway and Whetstonecommunities. I hope I’ve been able to answer your questions. If you need more information, please call (614) 345-9500 or email us online.


Jennifer Adams, RN, WCC
Director of Nursing Services


Which Is Better—Assisted or Home Living?

Your senior parents need help.

You know it. They probably know it, although they may not want to admit it.

They may be having problems with:

  • Chronic illness or disease, such as high blood pressure, high LDL cholesterol or diabetes
  • Declining physical ability, such as vision, hearing, balance or walking
  • Home safety
  • Home maintenance and repairs
  • Taking their medication accurately
  • Transportation
  • Dressing
  • Cooking
  • Bathing
  • Doctors’ visits

With this in mind, you may be considering getting extra help for your aging parent.

The question is: Should you choose home care or an assisted living community? What’s the difference, anyway? Get answers to these questions and more below.

Adult Children Take on Caregiving

Most adult children initially try their best to take care of their parents’ needs. However, you have limited time and resources. You have a job, children, spouse, community responsibilities, and a home that needs regular maintenance.

Eventually, it becomes too much, because your parent needs more care than you can offer.

All too often, adult children feel guilty because they can’t meet their parents’ growing needs. You shouldn’t, though. After all, you weren’t trained to be a caregiver.

Related: What’s Life Like in an Assisted Living Community?

What Do You Do When Your Parents Need Help?

It’s time to research the best options for your parents, your children and spouse, and you. First, consider the costs of living at home versus assisted living.

Costs of Living at Home Versus Assisted Living

Genworth Financial has estimated the monthly costs of various types of care in the Columbus, Ohio, area for 2019.

Homemaker Services…………….$4,624

Home Health Aide…………………$4,624
Assisted Living………………………$3,945

Adult Day Health Care……………$1,517

To accurately compare the numbers, add up everything your loved one currently pays. If your parent lives in their own home, make sure to consider the following expenses as you calculate their monthly costs.

  • Mortgage/Rent
  • Property taxes
  • Property/Renters’ insurance
  • Assessments
  • Property maintenance and repair
  • Appliance maintenance/repair/replacement
  • Transportation/vehicle cost (repair, gas, maintenance)
  • Utilities (electric, gas, water, sewer, phone, trash)

Consider that if your parents live with you, you’ll likely be responsible for all of the above.

Psychological Aspects of Parents Living at Home versus Assisted Living

The American Psychological Association states that caregivers frequently experience the following:

  • Stress
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Fatigue
  • Sleep problems
  • Problems at work
  • Relationship stress
  • Reduced quality of life
  • Financial strain

Taking care of a loved one, though a noble endeavor, can be stressful on both you and the rest of your family. It takes time and money to do it properly, and you may be strapped for one or both.

Related: How Is Transportation Handled in Assisted Living?

Health Aspects of Living at Home versus Assisted Living

All the emotional and other stress would be worth it, though, if your parents are happier and healthier at home.

However, some research indicates assisted living is safer, and residents are happier and healthier than living at home, whether with an adult child or not. Studies show the benefits of living in an assisted living community include:

  • Increased physical activity and fitness
  • Socialization
  • Safer living environment, including on-site healthcare and emergency response systems
  • Intellectual stimulation
  • Nutritious meals
  • Housekeeping and linen service
  • No maintenance/repair
  • Transportation provided
  • Help with activities of daily living, such as dressing, medication reminders, and hygiene
  • Regular monitoring for physical and mental well-being

In assisted living communities like Macintosh, your parents will have a plethora of activities available to them at any time. They’ll be able to go to as many or as few activities as they’d like, and our Activities Director is on hand to help navigate your parent through them all.

The MacIntosh Difference

Because all MacIntosh communities also offer skilled nursing, we provide additional services, such as on-site emergency care, rehabilitation, and medication management.

The MacIntosh difference is that we provide personalized, uncompromised healthcare that exceeds expectations.

MacIntosh assisted living residences are located at Canal Winchester, Mill Run, New Albany, Pickaway and Whetstone communities. Monterey and West Park offer memory support for residents with dementia.

For more information about any of our communities, please fill out our online form. We’ll be in touch with you soon!

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